Julie, let's get serious here, he's a 'Feeder'. My dearly beloved is a feeder. Oh, how I wish I had known what a 'feeder' was back when I first met him!! I had just through diet & excercise, lost about 12 kilos, after my marriage broke up. We met, and, well, all he wantert to do was 'look after' me & 'feed' me. He was an amateur chef, made some tasty 'messes', they looked messy but tasted good, and I didn't want to offend him, as I'm a kind person, & hate to hurt people's feelings. Tried to get him walking with me, but it was a gradual thing, I went walking less & less & ate more, and hey bingo!! back to fatness & more......I had a lot of trouble initially when I started doing this fructose free life. On his way to & from the kitchen to get himself snacks, he would always bring something for me, (as was usual) Even though I didn't always eat said snacks, they were within sight, & I eventually did eat them. That was when I gradually realised he was just being a 'feeder' wanting to nurture me. He's a good, kind sorta bloke, & I love him deeply, but I can't let him sabotage me like this, I thought.....so I sat him down & had a little word, something along the lines that I really appreciated everything he did for me, (which I do, he's the main dinner cook), but that I was serious about this, & if he wasn't going to join me, then please don't sabotage my efforts. He was a little huffy at first, but soon got the message, as I would make him come back & take any 'extra' offerings back to the kitchen. I had a little battle with him regarding cutting right back on potatoes, tho'. Took me about 8 meals worth of too many potatoes to get the message over.
Now I hear the guys out there saying' But you are choosing to put this stuff in your own mouth, aren't you?' And you'd be right. But, surely some of you out there know how hard it can be to say no to something tempting that's shoved right in front of your face, can't you? Hey? I love my food, so find it extra hard.....so to all you amateur psychologists out there, give the girl a bit of a break, no sarcasm, please, we are all trying our damndest to make this lifestyle work & don't need your silly stuff, at least try to be encouraging.
I, at least, am still trying to
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