Freda I took your advice, I told them and you were right, it was fine. It actually was a bit of a race to the top, half the room was dieting and for a while it became a fress free zone and who was the best at sticking to their diet. The kids of course wanted none of that and devoured anything with chocolate or icing sugar near it. Without sounding too proud this was a bit of a milestone for me. I've been at this for six weeks and I thought that the combination of social pressure, politeness to the cooks and once a year amazing dishes might break my will. Well it didn't so a bit of a Mazeltov to me and I'm sure one to you too.