Hi, You mentioned that you feel you have to do this by yourself. At the end of the day I find that we have to create our own path for whatever in life. I found that by just focusing on my own condition and doing what was necessary was the way to go. Also I found that you can try to convince some else till you are blue in the face, but the only way you convince anyone is to be role model with your own beliefs. If you want to be healthy, behave like you are healthy and you will be healthy........It is only so much about the food, it is more about how we think of ourselves and what we want to achieve. I was 130kg and everyday I just believed in what I was trying to achieve and that was to just be fit and healthy and that is where I am today a new person and I am 57 now and it has changed my life. Just the thought process is so powerful. You are the only person who will hold yourself back, it is not about will power it is about this is what I want to achieve, so I am going to plan for myself the best way of doing this and with what knowledge I can find along the way that suits me in my environment......then go from there. When I would have a bad feelings day, I would say to myself .....this day could be better but tomorrow is a new day when I wake up and so forth..........you are the most important person in your life and the work you achieve for yourself will help you help your children, husband and any others who will finally look at your achievement in a different way. Just live in every 24 hour block, because that is what you are in at the moment......this 24 hours......that is what you focus on.